THE CHILD💛THAT’S NOT THERE The child that’s not there Takes up every piece of me The child that’s not there Consumes my every thought The child that’s not there Makes me feel like I failed The child that’s not there Took away a main reason for being But The children that are there Still somehow bring me joy The children that are there Still need my love The children that are there Don’t need any more grief The children that are there Force me to go on. Tricia Palmer In memory of my son, Gabriel Boyer TCF, Tidewater, VA TIME DOES NOT REALLY HEAL A BROKEN HEART IT ONLY TEACHES A PERSON TO LIVE WITH IT In Loving Memory In spirit alike and with homage enduring, we came Honoring love and remembrance in our child's name Closely together in tender communion we stand Holding each other's heart in a tremulous hand. Children surround us that nobody's eye can see, Children whose blessings bring solace to you and me. Starting alone in the memory of heartbreaking fears, Let us now share our sorrow and ease our tears. In loving devotion let hope and fine courage arise, Bestowed in the spirit of children beyond our eyes. Until, in spite of the hurt from unbearable loss, we find The treasure of friendship here and new peace of mind. Sascha Wagner Written for the Fourth National Conference of The Compassionate Friends In Loving Memory, May 1999 And if I go, while you’re still here … know that I live on, vibrating to a different measure behind a thin veil you cannot see through. You will not see me, so you must have faith. I wait for the time when we can soar together again, both aware of each other. Until then, live your life to its fullest and when you need me, just whisper my name in your heart,
… I will be there. Emily Dickinson Remember Me Remember me in quiet days When raindrops whisper on your pane, But your memories have not grief Let just the joy we know remain. Remember me when evening stars Look down on you with steadfast eyes ; And when your thoughts do turn to me, Know that I would not have you cry. But live for me and laugh for -- When you are happy, so am I. Remember an old joke we shared; Remember me when spring walks by; Think of me when you are glad, And while you live, I shall not die. Lyn Bryant, Sibling TCF, Baytown, TX If we choose to Move forward Acknowledging The sorrow and sadness But also the love and laughter Then hope travels with us www.thegrieftoolbox.com IS IT EASING? I heard your name today and my heart did not skip a beat, nor was my mind flooded with the emotion of losing you. I heard your name today and it did not bring back the terrible hurt feelings of when you first left me. I heard your name today with a calmness that surprised me. Many another child carries your name, and it had been torture hearing it and seeing the smiling faces on those little girls. But today I knew–I found out–what others in my footsteps found out and tried to tell me. The hurt will ease; but the memories, the love, the good times will never go away. Phoebe C. Redman TCF Bradenton, FL You are near, even if I don’t see you. You are with me, even if you are far away. You are in my heart, in my thoughts, in my life, ALWAYS. ~author unknown Don’t tell me to get over it, Don’t tell me to be strong, Don’t tell me time’s a healer, Don’t tell me to move on, I need my time to grieve, I need my time alone, No one else can rush me, I need to do this on my own, Yes, it may take a while, Yes, it may take years, Yes, I may shout and scream, And cry so many tears, But only when I am ready, Not because you tell me so, For when the time is right, I will be the one to know. ~ John F Connor
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